COUPLES & INDIVIDUAL THERAPY IN BELLEVUE
Create meaningful change in the way you live, work, and connect.
You may be successful in many parts of your life and still find yourself stuck in patterns that are difficult to change on your own. Therapy can help you better understand what is happening, respond differently, and build stronger relationships with yourself and the people who matter most.
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I work with adults and couples who want thoughtful, practical, and lasting change—including many people working in technology and other demanding professional environments.
In-person in Bellevue + secure telehealth throughout Washington
a place to begin
Something important isn't working the way you want it to.
People often come to therapy not because everything is falling apart, but because something has become difficult to ignore.
Your relationship feels stuck.
You may care deeply about one another but keep returning to the same arguments, distance, hurt, or misunderstandings.
You're carrying more than others realize.
Work, responsibility, relationships, and expectations may leave you feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, anxious, depressed, or unsure how to make things different.
You understand the problem, but insight hasn't changed it.
You may already know a great deal about yourself and still find that certain reactions, habits, or relationship patterns keep taking over.
Therapy creates room to understand those patterns more clearly—and begin changing what happens next.
Couples Therapy
Stop having the same fight.
Start understanding the pattern.
You can love each other deeply and still become caught in patterns of conflict, distancing, resentment, or disconnection, all of it painful.
Couples therapy can help you understand what happens between you, change problematic dynamics, and break painful cycles. Our work goes beyond communication techniques, and as you develop your relationship skills, you can more quickly repair emotional injuries, create deeper connection, and build greater trust and intimacy.
Individual Therapy
You can be successful and still not feel like you're doing well.
I work with adults navigating anxiety, burnout, overwhelm, stress, relationship difficulties, perfectionism, emotional disconnection, career pressures, life and work transitions, depression/feeling stuck, and the sense that something important needs to change.
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Together we can make sense of what is happening, understand the patterns shaping your experience, and develop ways of living, relating, and responding that feel more intentional and authentic—true to your values and who you aspire to be.
Ways to Work Together
THERAPY THAT MAKES ROOM FOR THE WHOLE PERSON
I understand the world you're working in.
I've been there.
Many of the people I work with are thoughtful, capable, analytical, and accustomed to solving complicated problems. That can be a tremendous strength—and it can also be frustrating when insight alone doesn’t resolve something emotional or relational.
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Before becoming a therapist, I spent 12 years as a program manager at a local tech giant. I understand environments that reward speed, logic, performance, independence, and constant problem-solving. Therapy offers a different kind of work: slowing things down enough to notice what is happening internally and relationally, without giving up the clarity and intelligence you already bring.
You do not need to work in technology to work with me. What matters is that you are willing to look closely at what is happening and engage seriously in the process of change.
Therapy should lead somewhere.
My style is active, collaborative, compassionate, and direct.
We will not simply talk around the problem week after week.
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Observe the pattern
We slow things down and identify what repeatedly happens—internally, between people, and in the situations that matter most.
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Understand what drives it
We explore the emotions, beliefs, protective strategies, and past experiences that make the pattern understandable, and change those that are no longer useful.
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Practice something different
Insight becomes useful when it creates new choices. We work toward changes you can actually experience in your relationships and everyday life.
The goal is not simply to cope better. It is to create change that becomes increasingly natural, durable, and your own.
ROGER BAERWOLF, MA, LMHC
Experienced, engaged, and genuinely collaborative.
I believe effective therapy requires more than warmth and good listening. It requires curiosity, honesty, careful attention to patterns, and a willingness to engage directly with what is getting in the way.
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My work is informed by relational, attachment-oriented, systemic, and experiential approaches. I work with diverse and neurodiverse adults and couples, and adapt therapy to the people in front of me rather than forcing everyone into the same model.
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Most importantly, I want therapy to feel like something we are doing together—with clear attention to what matters to you and whether our work is actually helping.
A few practical details
Free consultation
Begin with a complimentary 30-minute consultation so we can determine whether working together feels like a good fit.
Private-pay practice
I do not bill insurance directly. I can provide a superbill if you wish to pursue out-of-network reimbursement.
In-person + telehealth
Meet in my Bellevue office or by secure telehealth anywhere in Washington state.
You don't have to know exactly what needs to change before you begin.
You only need to know that something matters enough to look at more closely.
A free 30-minute consultation gives us a chance to talk briefly about what is bringing you to therapy, what you hope might be different, and whether I may be a good fit to help.